SurvivaL for widows, or widow for dummies 101

In this day and age there seems to be a dummies 101 book for everything, everything that is except widows. It doesn't really matter if you are recent or it has been awhile. So after taking my sleeping pill, which I desperately needed after xcardio class tonight let me try to impart what I have learned in this short while. When anyone comes up and asks you how you are doing, smile and tell them fine, even if you have to lie.They probably don't really want or need to hear just how crappy things are but they feel they have to ask. Be gentle on them, a simple "fine" will put their minds at rest and they can walk away knowing that they at least asked. After a few months it is not appropriate to burst out in tears at music,places or anything. I know that it reminds you of the one you lost but lets face it, by now you should be "OVER IT" Got to love the terminology "IT" Just what is IT. Is it the realization that you have lost your best friend, that in all probability things will never be the same, that you have to become more (dare I say it)self reliant? That where you once cuddled close in bed you now stare into a void or else into a dogs fuzzy face?(at least in my case) People have been so kind to tell me about the "stages" of grieving, I even had a book given to me. I burnt it in the fireplace. If you read my last blog you will understand.....I couldn't find the chapter on I DON"T GIVE A SHIT So there you have it, the beginning of my interpretation of grieving for dummies 101. Remember, this is my place to rantbut if I have offended please let me know, I didn't intend to.